Working in a man’s world

I remember my very first experience with sexism in my workplace. It was a few years ago at a place I loved working at. Without getting into details, an opportunity arose for a group of both men and women to work on a project and present their work to a client. The group worked hard, day and night. After much admiration for the work, it our boss revealed that only a select few would present their work. All the men were selected, while the women were asked to stay back and brainstorm new Twitter content. Sounds thrilling, doesn’t it?

To be honest, when I heard about this, I didn’t really think too much about it. At least not until a close friend told me that this was a pattern, and it had been occurring even before I started working there. The women always did the work with the men, and were almost never selected to travel to present their work.

I remember thinking to myself ‘Ok, this is actually a thing. Happening to people close to me. Which means this could easily happen to me.’

I decided to get smart. I figured, if I prepare for something like this to happen, I’ll be ready to handle the situation and be vocal about my story.

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As I reflect on 2017…

As I reflect on 2017, all I can think is damn, this year was crazy.

2017 was like a grimy, dirty club – kind of a good time, kind of wondering how we got here in the first place.

This year was tough and exciting for me. Anyone in their 20s know what it’s like to be in this weird limbo. Unsure of where they should be going, what direction to take their lives and constantly wondering, “Am I doing the right thing?”

We’re all kind of moving through life wondering when someone is going to tell us to take a left in a half mile.

What I learned from so much uncertainty is that we need to go through this much uncertainty to be certain about what it is that we want out of life.

The biggest lessons I learned this year were with my career and my relationships.

Career-wise, I learned to trust my gut. I started my most recent job knowing that I wanted to get to a higher position. I started at the bottom and was hungry to get to the top. After a few attempts, I was told no. I kept being told to try a new place and move on. My gut told me to stay and prove my worth. As soon as I distinguished what my end goal was, I knew for a fact that I will get there. It just wouldn’t be in the exact path I expected to use originally.

The good thing about me being so stubborn is that I refuse to give up until I get exactly what I want. The amount that I’ve been able to accomplish that has allowed me to move up higher than I expected is insane. But also not surprising. 2017 for me was about proving everyone wrong, including myself. I’m entering 2018 with the same mindset. But  with more intensity. You can’t stop me now, ya feel?

I’ve never felt more sure about myself and my career. I also know that I’ll have to really grind to get to the top, but that only presents itself as a deliciously difficult challenge that I can’t wait to conquer.

 

With relationships, I’ve learned to keep my standards high. There really isn’t much else to it. Nothing more to explain. As women, we feel our biological clock ticking, and I don’t even want kids. It’s hard to not think, ‘shouldn’t I be getting married, like soonish?’

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When is Enough Going to be Enough?

A video went viral this week showing a boy sharing the pain of bullying he experienced in school. The video showed up on my Twitter feed, and I was honestly very reluctant to click on it. I knew that by clicking on the video, I’d have to hear about someone’s painful experience that was inevitably making him feel inadequate in some ways.

I eventually clicked on the video. It was heartbreaking. He shared what happened to him in school that day. With tears, he asked a simple question, “Why do they bully? What’s the point of it?”

He went on to tell what the kids in school made fun of him for.

It was exactly what the kids in my school did to me years ago. I remember coming home crying multiple times because of the horrific things people would say to me. I remember hating things about myself because I was told over and over again that it made me ugly and that it was different.

It took me years to get over it. I sometimes still catch myself reverting back to their comments and wondering if there is any truth to it. It’s funny how some things can stick with you for so long afterwards.

Here’s the thing about bullying – most kids who are bullied are bullied because they are “different” in some way.

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Plan for success

Planning goes a long way. Whether it’s in your personal life, career or just planning your day, when you have a plan, you’re more likely to be more productive and successful in achieving what you need to achieve.

Fitness is no different. Having a well thought out plan is the most effective way to reach your goals.

When I asked in an Instagram poll (@laceandmimosas if you’re not following yet) what kind of post you guys wanted to see next, I was a little reluctant to post this for fitness. My journey through fitness hasn’t been the smoothest. Obsessing over numbers on a scale and achieving goals the fastest way possible became my thing. It wasn’t until recently that I’ve “figured it all out.” Even then, I still make sure to pace myself so that I don’t fall into that hole of perfection and obsession.

This post is going to be about how I planned my cut that has allowed me to lose 4 pounds and tone up in less than a month.

HOWEVER, I want to stress this as much as possible:

What works for me, will not always work for others. This cut has been successful because I’ve figured out what works well for my body. Please, please, please don’t do everything I say exactly. You need to listen to your body and your needs.

So, now that all that is out of the way, let’s get to it.

I’ve been wanting to do a cut for a while now so I decided to do it in three phases:

Phase 1 is a slow introduction to the cut. This involves mostly Intermittent Fasting. Don’t know what that is? I covered it in a recent post here. I slowly cut out processed foods (my main weakness <3) and introduced more wholesome foods. This meant more consistent meal preps, eating out less and reaching for fruit instead of packaged foods as a snack. Phase 1 is very slow just to get into that habitual desire to keep up with this lifestyle change. I stress that this is more of a lifestyle change than a diet. Not only do I want to consistently do this from now on, but I also feel that the word ‘diet’ has a negative, constricting connotation. Health should be all about positivity and good changes, not restrictions and obsessions.  Continue reading

Perception is Reality

I think it was my junior year at UF as a public relations student when I found myself sitting in my PR Strategies class. I remember my professor handing us a truth bomb about what it was really like working in the field of public relations. She told us about how she got hired at a company and how scared she was. She got the job, but she felt like she had no idea what she was doing. Relatable much?

She offered us a piece of advice that I carried with me ever since. It’s simple, and you’ve heard it before. Although it seems silly, it’s how I’ve gotten through every little thing in my life since. Ready for it? Continue reading